Money is not an easy topic to discuss, I understand that. But what I don’t understand is when, how or why it became so difficult. Money is now truly a way of our survival. Without money we cannot eat, we cannot clothe ourselves, or shelter ourselves. We require money for almost everything. There are very few of us who are able to live off the land and live in grass huts.
We need to be able to discuss things that we are not sure of how it works or how to control it our how to better manage it. Not all of us were meant to know everything about everything.
If my car breaks down I take it to a mechanic. If my fridge is on the fritz I call in a repair person. If my child has difficulty with a certain subject in school then I find someone who can help them with that subject; a tutor. We seem to be able to seek out help for almost everyting in life but when we are unsure of how to get our money working for us, or how to set up a cashflow plan, we freeze. For some reason, we do not want to admit that we may need help. Just because we have an MBA or a PHD does not mean that we “SHOULD” know how to successfully run our finances. You do not need know how to do everything yourself, you just need to know when to ask someone who can help you.
It is truly time for a change. With money being one of the biggest reasons for divorce, and it is one of the common reasons for stress and anxiety we need to be able to ask for help in this area without shame. We need to learn to let down our guard and know that we will not be judged. When you start to discuss money and it’s many challenges you will discover that you are not alone. There are many people who feel exactly the same way that you do. At my last workshop I had someone who was very well educated say that she felt like a fraud because she was at my workshop learning about money.
I made sure that I set her straight. She is not a fraud; none of us are frauds if we ask for help or ask for a clearer understanding on a subject. What we are is authentic! We are being true to ourselves and true to those around us. We all need help with some challenges in life. Let’s make a pact to change this. Isn’t it time to be true to ourselves and true to those around us? Once one of us steps out others will follow and we can all gain and grow together.
The Time to Change is now.