Women going through transition experience so much change that it is sometimes hard to keep up and process it all. Often times, we are lost in the experience and forget to acknowledge the growth we have attained and the positive ways in which we have changed our lives. The image we hold in our heads today may not be a true representation of who we are today. By this I mean, many women who find they are going through transition have come to believe certain things they have been told either by others or by themselves. These things may not necessarily be true and should be addressed and eliminated so you can recognize and appreciate the new you.
A perfect example of this is the woman who after going through transition loses a lot a weight. She carries an image of herself in her mind that probably does not match the image others see. I am reminded of one woman who lost 100 pounds but still saw herself through those heavy eyes. It was only through random reflections in mirrors and store fronts that she caught glimpses of herself and realized that she was indeed healthy and beautiful.
Appreciating and recognizing all the work she had done to reach that goal was the key in getting her to truly see herself as others do today. Many times we are too hard on ourselves and we forget to stop and take stock of all we have accomplished and things we have changed. It is very important to do this otherwise we risk reverting back to old behaviors and ways of thinking.
As we move on with our lives and relationships this appreciation or love of self is essential. We all know that in order to truly love or appreciate someone else, you must love and appreciate yourself. One of the greatest gifts you can give to those who care about you is a genuine love for yourself.
There are lots of ways you can reinforce self-love including speaking kindly about yourself, appreciating your flaws, celebrating your successes, pampering yourself, learning to accept compliments, honoring your emotions, and asking others who seem to exemplify what you are looking for, how they do it.
Another tip is to let go of conditions and restrictions you place on yourself. If you make a mistake, move on. Do not belabor the issue or allow self-doubt to question the changes you have made and the things you have accomplished. We all crave unconditional love, but usually from others. A strong lesson can be learned from loving ourselves unconditionally.
Bottom line is you need to give yourself credit for what you have accomplished and like the woman who lost 100 pounds recognize and see yourself for who you really are today. Get rid of those old images and thoughts and embrace the growth you have achieved. Replace them with positive, affirming messages and images. Love yourself as you want others to love you and as you love others. You have come a long way baby.