Some days it can be next to impossible to stay positive. The kids are demanding, your boss is frustrating, you’re feeling isolated and alone … the list goes on. You try to look at the “bright side”, but you find yourself slipping into the old habit of feeling sorry for yourself. You know that being positive is going to mean change and that is scary.
For some of us it is hard to change, yet if you take steps to learn ways to change you will find positivity is a great thing to allow into your life. Perhaps the best way to introduce change in your life is to take a good long look at your habits; what old habits are holding you back?
Perhaps one of the most hurtful bad habits I see is untruths. Many people are brought up lying to themselves and even to others. This happens because we are surrounded by a world filled with opinions, philosophies, theories, suspicion, guesses, and conclusions. Everyone has one and many are not afraid to share them. Before you can improve your own life, you have to learn how to close yourself to these “untruths” and stop allowing yourself to join in on the negativity. Believe me I know this will not be an easy feat, but when others realize you no longer engage in gossip, rumors or hurtful actions they will begin to respect that about you.
So what are some of the things you can do to change your bad ways to good ways?
This is going to be completely up to you. I can only offer you helpful tips to assist you on your journey to a better life, but it takes you to try out new tactics that helps you to grow. No one can change you, but you.
For one thing, you need to figure out why you are engaging in these negative and bad habits. Is it something within yourself you are not happy with? Is it the people around you that are bringing you into their lies, opinions and gossip? Perhaps deep down knowing that others are “worse” than you brings you a little joy. Whatever your reason you cannot stop this hurtful behavior until you know why you allow yourself to live with these bad habits. The most important thing to keep in mind is that you can only learn to make good decisions by evaluating the bad!!
It is easier than you believe. For instance, would you allow a drunk person to drive you home? Would you allow your child to steal a piece of candy from the store? These are both also moral decisions, but for some reason they seem to be more black and white than the moral decision to decide to walk away from negativity.
Another good step is to begin making yourself aware of how you are acting and talking at all times. Be conscious of how you feel when you engage in this negativity; observation is the key to achieving the positive outlooks you want to achieve. Stand back and take a hard look at you. Do not persecute or self-judge, rather look for ways to make your life better and to change the conversations to good.
When you find yourself slipping and getting frustrated with the actions of others and allowing those negative thoughts to creep back in, remember the saying “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. I guarantee that even though it is easy to persecute others and judge them for their lifestyle, their decisions, their skills, etc it is much, much harder to really concentrate on only seeing the good in every situation and every person.
It is not going to be easy and I know that at times you will slip, but when you only allow positivity into your life I guarantee you will be on the road to a much happier and healthier lifestyle.