Money can be the source of many fights among couples. When two people marry, money is usually one of the last topics that they discuss before they tie the knot. Why? I do not know. But money touches almost every part of our lives in some way and it should be one of the first things that a couple discusses when putting together their life plans.
So when is it time for a couple to ask for help? Many couples may wait until it is too late, or when they believe is too late. Some couples are too embarrassed to ask for help. They feel that they shouldn’t need help or they are too proud to ask for help. But asking for help may humble us and allow us to be human as we all need help at some point in our lives.
Here are some hints that you may be ready to ask for help when it comes to finances.
1. Is there a certain issue that arises consistently and that you are unable to resolve?
2. Do you feel a distance coming between you because of this unresolved issue?
3. Do you find yourself being financially secretive around your spouse?
4. Do you have an issue that stops you from moving forward in other areas of your life?
5. Are you feeling “financially unsafe” in your relationship?
If you answered yes to two or three of the above questions you could probably use some support to help you through.
It is fantastic when a couple decides that that they should seek outside support but if your partner isn’t ready then you should do it on your own. Many times when one begins to make changes and see positive results, the other will follow. Don’t wait, seek a way to end your money issues early on so that you can grow stronger together and create lasting financial intimacy.